As parents we often have to offer our children some criticism. Criticism is sometimes hard to accept.
One skill that children can learn is how to accept criticism. This is a skill we are teaching children to use at school. You can also practice this skill at home. Here are the steps to accept criticism appropriately:
1. Look at the person. Don’t use negative facial expressions.
2. Stay calm and quiet while the person is talking.
3. Show you understand. (Say, “Okay” or “I understand.”)
4. Try to correct the problem. If you are asked to do something differently, do it. If you are asked to stop doing something, stop it. If you can’t give a positive response, at least give one that will not get you into trouble. (Say, “Okay,” “I understand,” or “Thanks.”)
Even though accepting criticism is often difficult, students are learning that being able to accept criticism shows that they can take responsibility for what they do and listen to advice from others. When children can control themselves and listen to the feedback from others, they will have fewer problems. Children learn that the way they handle criticism often determines how they are treated by others. In addition, children can benefit from the critical feedback and can listen to specific ways to improve.
If you need to give criticism to your child have them practice these steps with you. It is also helpful to teach them to say calm and take a deep breath if necessary. All of us can benefit from learning these steps. This is a great skill to learn because we all will receive criticism in our lives.
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